Reading list

In one of these interchanges someone asked about which books one should be reading, and in what order.

Here’s my 55 year-old been at this for twenty years list.

1. Journey of the Adopted Self – Lifton
2. Primal Wound – Verrier
3. The Girls Who Went Away – Fessler
4. Being Adopted – 3 authors
5. Coming Home to Self – Verrier
6. You Don’t Look Adopted – Anne Heffron
7. 10 Foundations – Pam Cordano MFT
8. Adoption Healing – Soll
9. BONUS – not Adoption but Attachment: ATTACHED- Amir Levine and Rachel Heller

First gives you an overview of all kinds of issues you didn’t even realize, then you dive right into the BIG one, then you can have some empathy for our birth mothers – and then we own it and work on stuff not being knee-jerk but search for our authentic self.