Disenfranchised

I’ve thought a lot this year about Ambiguous Grief.

Where what your mourning isn’t cut and dry.

Learned a new term that’s similar, and appropriate.

Disenfranchised Grief:

“Grief that persons experience when they incur a loss that is not or cannot be openly acknowledged, socially sanctioned or publicly mourned”. 

So as an adoptee, all of childhood.  All of the questions you can’t speak, all of the loss you feel but don’t know of what and who and any questioning gets the parents mad…

So you cope by leaving it alone.

So odd.  So much resurfaced this year.