Across Generations

I’ve been working a case for a chick my age-ish, gave up a child for adoption.  I helped put up her DNA results last year, but there was no one close looking for her, and when you’re the legal adult who legally relinquishes said child… There’s only so much you can do… but putting your DNA out there, in this day and age, and anyone who is even slightly curious will end up matching you.

I asked about her highest match, who appeared to be a nephew, but since her response wasn’t anything, and I knew of no known reason to dig deeper.  She didn’t ask me to help dig into her family tree etc, she just wanted to be there in case it could help her find her son, see if he’d been searching. (He’d be almost 40)

So I check here and there, see if new matches pop up.  But a couple weeks ago, I got a message from her highest match.  750 cms, 21 segments = half nephew zone.  His brief note within Ancestry was “my dad was adopted, I’m trying to find his birth family.”

Mind blown, etc.  What a quick look further at him, and his shared matches with “B” and lo and behold, she has a different father than her siblings.  The infamous “NPE”  She blown away, and apparently the match is blown away, because now zero response.  But I’ve solved it!  It’s either the sadly dead brother or the alive brother in Arizona.  Now how do you approach an 80 year old??

My vote is always TRUTH.  Concise as possible (being a girl) TRUTH.  Someone’s got two more kids he didn’t know about…

Genetic Genealogy lesson for the day, always, even if they ask just about one specific aspect… look at the whole tree, the whole cousin matches.  Never Assume…

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